I have been getting many people ask me "Which do you prefer more, LA or NY?" on a daily basis. To me it is kind of an absurd question because I was born in Los Angeles and have spent many years there as for New York I haven't even made it a year. But I can try to explain to you the best I can my experiences, mostly as a young woman, in both of the cities.
Los Angeles is beautiful- My last few years there I lived in Santa Monica and Westwood which are both amazing parts only minutes from the ocean. I had a rooftop pool and was walking distance to all my favorite bars (and only like .3 miles from In-N-Out).
My days off would be spent reading my current muse of a book in my hidden gem of a beach while getting just the proper amount of bronze- what can you hate about that? I worked for a bikini brand which I got to travel to Coachella for free and attend many fashion shows. It easily seemed like my life was at ease.
The main issue I had with Los Angeles once I became an adult was *gasp* the people. Don't get me wrong I have a solid group of friends in LA who will be my friends for a lifetime but I lucked out with them. People in LA are very superficial and too much about materialistic things. Los Angeles made me believe I needed a boob job or lip injections to feel pretty, which I never did thank goodness but I know many people who have and I am not saying it's a bad thing but to me I don't want to feel like I have to go through a transformation to feel pretty.
As a young blonde in LA I got sucked in and swallowed by the nightlife. I found my crew and I always going to the nightclubs and partying the night away. At the time it seemed awesome. We would be chillin' at the hottest celebrities after parties and attend the most exclusive parties. I got persuaded to believe that this lifestyle will give me connections and will benefit my future. After being in a car with a friend who has been drinking and getting in a wreck to getting stranded at a house in the Hollywood Hills, I began to realize that this lifestyle isn't as glamorous as I once thought.
I began doing the Santa Monica bar scene which was much more up my alley. I had a few girls who would be down to explore the neighborhood with me and I finally felt more myself and my age. Then I began to realize the men in LA. For the nightclubs you would meet men but for me I would never take them that seriously- nor was I ever that attracted to them, it was more about going out with your girls and having fun for me. In Santa Monica I began dating guys and really understanding the type of men in the area. After many failed dates and one random bar kiss I decided LA men are just not for me.
Once I came to New York I immediately began to see a new way of how people lived their life. I was scared because I heard New Yorkers are mean and selfish but that was far from the truth. I fed off the energy here in the city and felt determined to have goals and ambitions. The people weren't selfish but they actually worked hard and wanted to succeed. I began dressing more professional (hence my
"all black everything" post) and began interviewing at places I never even thought I could step in their building such as Vogue and Michael Kors.
My weekends weren't filled with strobe lights or house music but rather classic songs and bottles of wine in the hamptons. I would have weekly brunches with my friends that ends in a day filled of football and chicken wings.
The men in New York are very respectful and considerate ( and c'mon ladies we ALL love a men in a suit). I have went on great dates with great men who are now good friends of mine. I am not in the dating mode just yet because I am focusing on myself and my goals but I can definitely see a more geniune way of dating out here.
I am FINALLY in the right path with graduating with school and I have a less fascination with material things and looking more towards my future endeavors.
I get excited about grown up things like the ballet opening up or which Broadway show I will see next.
These seemingly subtle changes have impacted my life extremely and it has only been 9 months so I am eager to see what the future months have in store for me.
The main decision will be once I graduate to sign a lease if I decide to stay and as for now that looks very promising(well, talk to me after the winter).
So to answer the overwhelmingly popular question which city do I like better- I simply can't. But as for me and my short term goals I could not see myself in another city. LA is always a home to me and there are so many memories there but I know with who I am right now and what I want to become I cannot move back until I fulfill my goals.
So I guess you can say I am now a true New Yorker
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